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Why You Cant Stop Thinking About Them
Why They Stay in Your Head and What Actually Helps You Move On
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Breakups / 57m
Why They Stay in Your Head and What Actually Helps You Move On
Why can someone be out of your life and still take up hours of your day?
You replay the ending. Search for the reason. Imagine them coming back. Have conversations with them in your head. Wonder who they are with. Check your phone even though you already know there is nothing there.
Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Them explains what keeps this mental loop alive, and, more importantly, how to weaken it without trying to force the person out of your mind.
The audiobook breaks obsessive post-relationship thinking into six common loops: replay, why, fantasy, imaginary conversations, watching, and comparison.
You’ll learn:
The goal is not to erase someone who mattered.
It is to stop giving them your attention automatically.
The audiobook also includes a practical companion guide to help you identify your thought loops and gradually reclaim the attention they have been consuming.
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You are reading an email at work, and you get to the end and realize you have not taken in a word. You go back to the top. Somewhere in the second line, you are gone again. You are in a conversation that happened four months ago, saying the thing you should have said. Or you are in one that has never happened, where they turn up at your door. Or you are simply seeing their face. You pull yourself back. Two minutes later you are there again. It is the first thing in your head when you wake and the last thing before you sleep. It is there in the shower, on the train, in the queue at the supermarket. A song comes on and you have to leave the shop. Your friends have started to get a particular look when you say the name. And you are tired, because it feels as though someone else is living in your mind and will not move out. If this is where you are, the first thing I want you to know is that you are not going mad, and you are not unusually weak or obsessive. What you are experiencing is one of the most common things that happens to a human mind after a loss or an unfinished attachment. It has known causes and a known course, and there are specific things that make it better and specific things that make it worse.
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